Double digits. You we are back. I we haven’t really found a time when we’re gonna come in on the music, but you said Oh, sorry. Oh, I always squeeze it. Oh, geez.

Welcome back to doing the most with Scarlet. And Mitchell. Why do I always have to say your name? I know. We haven’t because we have not coordinated this.

We’ve not really done a good job coordinating. Double digit episodes then, we would have this together by now. Right. So Do you know how we planned this today? Like Hey.

Are we doing the podcast today? Yeah. I thought so. Oh. Oops.

Okay. All set up. You’re working out and vacuuming. Oh. That thing.

That I no. This is where I gotta rein it back in. This is our podcast. This is doing the most episode number 10. If you’ve played along for the other nine episodes, welcome to 10.

If you’re just joining us, this is this is a gem of an episode. It is a milestone episode. And I was so prepared for it. I started literally I grabbed a piece of paper, I was writing things down. Compared to I usually maintain a a show note, a digital thing, and I make notes.

I even relistened to our last episode a second time, and then there was like a correction. I was like, I need to make a note about this correction, but I I did not make a note about the correction. Oh. It may come to me during the episode, it may not. There was a correction from episode nine.

That was it was a minor one. It wasn’t like a big deal, but some Like somebody corrected us? No. I just was listening, and I was like, oh, that’s not right. Oh.

I don’t know what it was. So Well, was it like I don’t know. It’s it’s not it wasn’t really it was then I was like, this is not, like, a newspaper. And And I need to publish, is it not a I didn’t need her to go back and make a what was it called? Oh, shoot.

And A recusal? Not, not a reprint. There’s a name for it. Maybe it’s just correct. Thing we do and, like, at work in our care plan if we want add addendum.

No. It’s not an addendum. There’s an official name in newspaper world, I think. Oh, redaction. No.

Just like, oh, but maybe. It doesn’t matter. Let’s ask. Everyone say, thank you for that good, five minute exploration of a word. I can’t don’t that happens.

Do you I don’t know if I’m getting older or just, like, there’s a word and you know is this so dumb? You know what it is, but you don’t know what it is. It’s like, when I hear it, I’ll know it. There’s a word out there. It exists.

I’ve used it before. I’ve seen it, and it’s for this item, but yet I can’t think of what it is in this moment. And then people will start throwing out words. You’re like, no. No.

But you know, like, when you hear it, you’re like, that that’s the one. I feel like I do that at least once a day. Of course. Like, at work, I’ll be talking about some and I’ll be like, you know, the the thing, and they’ll be like this and this. And I’m like, no.

Well, do you ever have the thing though where it’s like, you but then you do finally hear it and you’re like, oh, maybe that is it. And then you weren’t wanna confident And you’re not satisfied. Yeah. It’s not like, oh, that wasn’t quite that. That was it.

I guess. Sure. If you say so. So anyway smarter than that. Yeah.

Well, I am learning I am not that smart. Thanks to you. Okay. Episode 10. I mean, we are moving along with this podcast.

I wanna thank all the listeners out there. A big shout out to, all of you, generic listeners, who are writing into, either email feedback@scarletandmitchell.com, or you’re putting your feedback on the, straight on the website scarlet and mitchell dot com. I mean, did you know you could do that? You could just put comments right there, and then I can see them three weeks later and respond to them or not. Or we keep well, last time I’m sorry, folks.

We keep saying, oh, we’re gonna get we have blue sky and it’s I’m gonna get up with the social media. You said that last time. I know, but I really mean it this time. Yeah. Okay.

So And I get Oh, go ahead. Some verbal feedback Oh, okay. About our last episode. Yeah. Yeah.

And this gal at work was like, she looked at me and she was like, I’ve had the same best friends since elementary school. Oh, dear. And I just kinda looked at her like, what are we talking about? Oh, wow. Wow.

And then I remembered uncomfortable what we talked about on our last show and she had just listened to it. Oh, sorry for that. That’s alright. Just do it again. Yeah.

So and then I was like, you know what? Good for you. That’s great. I will just admit that I’m probably just a terrible unreliable friend. If if you were gonna I have a very small group of friends is so small.

They’re all sitting at this table. This is true. Friends at work who I would call good friends. Well, they’re the work friends. And I’ve hung out with a couple of them outside of work.

Yeah. But, yeah, I’m just probably not an unreliable friend. You think that’s But I’m not gonna go out of my way to, like, hang out with you. Do you think that’s a result of just having a family, a child, growing up, being busy? Like, what?

If you were to say what’s different between now and when you hung out with people, if you remember No. I I think it’s pre kid. I don’t think it’s a family. I think it’s a career thing. Because when I was at Salem or, you know, when I my first job, we didn’t have a kid, but I was night shift.

All my friends lived in Salem. I lived in Wilsonville. I’m not gonna drive to Salem to hang out with my friends on my off day. I I think it was just Okay. And we would get together maybe once or twice a year.

So in this case, you’re saying well, I mean, so I’m hearing you because I’m like, oh, because sometimes it’s proximity. Right? Yeah. Like I mean, also not a caller or a texter. Like, I barely call or text my own family.

This is true. I mean So I’m just I’m I’m very selfish of my time. It’s like, I don’t you know, my poor brother, he’s like, hey, I’d love to talk to you. And I’m like, I don’t have, like, two hours today to talk. Oh, so Which maybe I just need to, like, make better.

Hey, I’m just calling to see what’s up. I have about twenty minutes. Right. To you know? And that’s on me.

It’s all on me. Yeah. Like, I realized that. So I take full responsibility. Wife I think, me I have also been a friend who has made plans with friends, gone to these plans with friends, and that friend not show up.

Yeah. That’s kind of And, like, I’m super introverted. Do you know what it took me to even get here? It’s not the, yeah, the worst but Well, then you wonder, like, are those your real friends, right? Are the ones that don’t show up?

Yeah. Oh, so I have some So proximity. I guess, I’m just putting proximity is something, then you have, like, time, your time, or, like, if you work with someone, or if you have a social group, like a church group or something else, like, where you’re like, oh, okay. So you meet with them. You see those people become your friends because you see them regularly.

It’s built into your schedule. Same with work friends. So those are people that are built in, but maybe you’re not doing anything outside of that. Mhmm. Then proximity is a barrier because I have one of my good friends, big Ed, Scotty.

He we we were good friends. We worked together when our friendship was, like, you know, popping because we were at the same place and we hung out at lunch. And then So easy. It’s still good. We did other things Yeah.

Outside of that, but it didn’t, like, you know. Yeah. And he’s still a good friend. I mean, we’ll text I mean, now we get to that. You text, like, hey.

We should hang out soon. Yeah. And then you don’t and I feel like it’s on me because I’m like, man. He’s probably, like, Mitchell’s the worst. Like, he’s like, how many times am I gonna text him and say, hey, brother.

I miss you. Let’s get coffee. But I’m like, yeah, me too. And then it’s just and then he works a different schedule. He works like a nine to fiver now.

Right? Well, now now he has. But again, nurse schedule. So I’m like, oh, which is why sometimes but the proximity and I don’t fault him, but it is like 35, 40 man drive one way for me to visit him. And he’ll sometimes He’s like, not, like, you must come to me.

I’m usually the I’m the giver, you know, the the accommodator, so I’ll go wherever. And then I have other friends that are outside the state who I just call on the phone every now and then. Those those are like So I have a couple of friends where it’s like, you know, Ronnie and Aaron, I’m at it, where I can just chat with them every infrequently, but we pick up right where it’s not There’s no Do you know what I’m talking about? I don’t know what you call that. Where it’s like, I don’t like, we don’t there’s no awkward moment.

It’s like, yeah, we it’s like we were just hanging out yesterday, but we aren’t. And I don’t know if there’s a spiritual element to that. I was actually I think those are like your soul friends. Because we connected pretty quickly in college or well, quickly, we were drawn to each other. That sounds I know.

Whatever it was, it was just like there was enough there. And then to this day, like, I mean, he’ll, like, just text me the other day about something. I was like, oh, yeah. You know, it’s just like that Yeah. Something there.

And and while that friendship the question is, it’s not, one that I have to service a lot, which sounds weird, but, like, I’ve have you had those kind of friends? I’ve had those friends where they’re like Those don’t last very long. They’re like, oh, you’re never, like, I’m always and you’re never. And it’s that like and then we’re always and you don’t and you can’t. And it’s always that like, oh.

Not real friends. They feel like they want something out of it. I mean, I guess but in fairness, everyone should want something out of a friendship, which is a friend. But, like and I don’t wanna, you know I don’t know. Here’s the other thing.

Maybe the here’s the question. I don’t know. Sorry, people. Come along with this on this discussion about friends and doing the most. Is it a type of person or a type of friendship that has that?

And let me let me clarify. One friend I’m thinking of, I think I think that’s how he is with all his friendships. It’s like if there’s not enough give or take, like, he gets frustrated and he feels like he’s like, well, you know, like, there’s that kind of part of it. Right? So I think that might be him as a person.

Are you talking about somebody specifically? Well, I have a couple friends. And and Like and I think no. No one, you know, I don’t think. But anyways, where you go like, oh, like, you know, I’m sorry I’m busy.

I have a family, and they’re in a different place in their life or they don’t quite get it. And but you feel like then you feel like you’re just being your friend because you’re guilted into it. But and I don’t know if they operate that way with everyone or just certain friendships. Now, I don’t know. Do you have a thought on that?

Are those people just those people or are there some people Those people need to have find friends who are as needy as they are. Oh, okay. And then they can thrive. And then they become best friends. But you can’t be a needy friend and go to the person who’s like, I have nothing to give because I’m giving to literally every other aspect of my life.

And I don’t have time for you, and you gotta be okay with that because they’re never gonna be okay with that. And then I just feel like, I don’t know who these friends are, but I don’t feel like you talk to them very much anymore. No. But So you drift apart and you move on with your lives, and you’re just like, they’ve played their role in your life, and now it’s time to move on. I guess I feel guilt about some of them because that we I had a genuine good friendship while we were friending, while we were Because you were probably in similar places.

And available and had the ability to put input into the friendship enough. So I I guess that’s how I kind of feel with my brother. I don’t even know if he ever listens to this. Oh, great. Is this But there was a period in our lives where we were we’re four years apart.

I’m four years older than him. But there was a period in our lives where, like, neither of us had kids. I didn’t really have a career. I just graduated college. I was just kind of fumbling through life.

And we would talk multiple times a day, three or four hours at a time. And then and then nursing school. And we probably got a little closer because now we’re living closer and we’re seeing each other in person more frequently. And then you kids. And I just can’t, there’s still that expectation of like, I want to call and catch up and, you know, talk about this, that and the other.

And I’m like, I know me too, but I just don’t, I don’t know. We’re just in different places. And even when he visits, it feels it’s very obvious that we’re in different places. Right. Which is, do you feel like do you feel like that you need to be in the same place then to have a good friendship?

I’m just trying to think if there I’m not I’m saying is there I’m thinking trying to think if there’s any other people where you’re like, oh. Or like because sometimes there are people who are well, because I don’t maintain this. People who are in a, like, you know, twenty, thirty years difference where there might be I don’t call them mentor, but could have been someone growing up and they were a good friend to you, but then later it’s like You have to But you don’t maintain those. I think you have to be in a similar place in some aspect. Because there are different like, where there are aspect be, you’re on a similar spiritual journey.

Whether you’re on a similar career path, whether you both have kids and you’re talking about that and you’re having playdates like I do with like my friend Sydney I work with. We’re both on kind of like the same spiritual path and we both have kids. Right. Almost the same age. So I would say we’re very we don’t hang out much outside of work, but we’re very close.

At work. Yeah. She probably knows more about me than most people. Yeah. I mean, not with you aside.

Right. Well, no. I, yeah. No. I would agree with that.

That that that’s because they’re because I think of a friendship I had that was really a really good friendship, like hanging out frequently a lot, you know, weekly, multiple times. And then this person who then became, like, his life, like his his pursuit of his degree and divergence though because suddenly, I’m the things he’s thinking of and talking about, or where he’s at are whatever. And I’m gonna I’m gonna be a little bit exaggerated here. Is that a word even? Where it’s like, he’s thinking about, oh, how where am I gonna buy my second home?

Should I get a boat or two jet skis or both? Like, the things that are preoccupying him are very different than what are preoccupying me. And then it’s like, oh, well, I’m that’s not my decisions. Yeah. And I have a lot that like, there’s less to talk about or share or commiserate or whatever it is.

And suddenly, you’re like, yeah. We’re I think then I you kinda I’m just trying to figure out a way to buy a second car. I’m just trying to figure out how to pay for groceries right now. And I don’t fault people for that because that happens, but I feel like then you’re all or then you get into that like, hey, we’re going to, Taos. You know?

You should come along. And you’re like, can’t really afford that. Like, then the activities become different. And it could be different because of financial, but I’m saying like which is I don’t wanna say it’s too bad, but then you kinda then you have this nostalgia for the friendship because it was so good and when it was good. Yeah.

But then it’s almost like this sadness, right, oh, this stinks. Now that friend ended up, like I’ve told you probably, ended up making some poor choices, ended up in prison. This is just the Texas guy? No. But could have been.

Okay. And then got out of prison, you know, has resumed you know, and he’s he’s doing good, but I’m saying, like, just kinda that strange and you go, I don’t even know if I knew this person. But I don’t think that’s sometimes that fair because I feel like, oh, I knew we knew each other at a point in time. Right? So I think I don’t wanna take away from friendships in that way, but I don’t know.

A strange, like, trying to so maintaining friends and friendships is kinda hard. I mean, so we have those ones we talk about, like, you call them soul friends, spiritual friends, the ones where you’re just like, yeah, like, nothing. Do you have any of those? Well, maybe this one is Sydney, but when we’re they’ll kind the long distance, but, like, don’t need don’t need to exchange a lot of words either. We’re just like, I get it already.

We’re already like I used to, but we’ve, like, lost touch and have kinda diverted on other like, maybe once we were in church and were religious together, and now I am very much not there. Right. And they’re still there. So I don’t know. I’ve taken different forks in the road, I guess, in my life where maybe those friends that I used to have who were like that are no longer like that.

And I haven’t had a friend like that in a really long time. Right. Does that something then that makes you sad? Or No. Okay.

I like how you’re just nonchalant. No? Does it? Because I miss like being obligated to anybody. I miss some of my friends, but but now this is also but you know me as of late, whatever that means, in six months, two years.

I don’t feel like I even have enough of my own time for me. Meaning, I’ve kind of gotten caught up in the busyness of work, raising, well, he’s almost four, and then I have four other kids. And, you know, there are some of them off and whatever. They’re not like, they require work still, some of them, in different degrees. But, like, like, I don’t even feel like I have time.

Like, I’ve lost sight. I am not I’m not implying, oh, woah. I lost myself. Oh, like, I don’t mean like that because I because if you ask my kids, they’re like, you haven’t really dedicated that much time, you know, like but you know where you go, like, I just wanna work on me. And I don’t know if that’s because of my age or or space in life on this wonderful trajectory where it’s like, oh, I’m now I’m in a second career.

Things are okay. We’re trying to, you know, get financially we’re kind of like, you know, we do okay, but we’re trying to settle in on, like, future bigger plans and bigger goals, and it’s just like, oh, I don’t know if I have time. And is there an app for finding friends, by the way? Yeah. I think there is.

Not like not like Grindr or whatever they’re called. There is. I can’t remember what it’s called. What are the what are those apps? Grindr?

It’s surprised me like that girl, the one we met at the park where she was like, oh, our sons go to school together. And she was so nice. Like, genuinely seems like a good person. And then she’s like, oh, let me get your number. And I’m like, oh, okay.

Yeah, I guess we’re gonna take this a little further. She was taking kicking her friendship up a notch to a number exchange. Then I was thinking, I don’t know if I’m ready for this. Oh, maybe she sent But she hasn’t texted me. Oh.

So I’m just like, oh, fast and furious is this gonna be. Because it could have been like, hey, do you wanna get together nice? But nothing. So, you know. Boy, that’s a tough because somebody I got nervous.

I was genuinely like, I don’t think I’m ready for this stuff. She was like, oh, we’re new in this area. What’s your number? You’re like, +1 (234) 567-8910. Oh, wait.

7890. Did you make that up? No. That’s a real number. Yeah.

The unlikely friends, though. What if she’s your what if she’s a soul friend? Friend mate? No. Soul friend.

Like, I’m not saying she is, but, like Like, I would have known by now. Boy, I would love to get some feedback at the feedback from anyone who has thoughts about this kinda I I this was not a planned topic, by the way. This is the part where we video this and we post this clip on our Instagram, and then people can give, like, feedback in the comments. But we aren’t that advanced yet. Well, I could I have enough cameras.

We could be flying a drone above us during the whole time and hear that noise. We could do it. I just figured you’d be like, the angle’s all wrong. It would take Just put it mount it on the ceiling. Oh.

Just look at the table. Up at an angle. But then we had to kinda can’t the chair. And we can do I could I thought on that actually. We could live stream it, and then I could take the video and chop out any parts and put those up.

Like, there’s a lot of talk about this later. Yeah. Sorry, everybody. I was hoping, like, I’d be like, hey. I totally redid the website, everybody.

Why don’t excuse me. Check it out, but I have not. So hey. Good luck there. By the way, so friends oh, which reminds me, I just wanted to say thank you for being your friend.

Travel down the road and back again. Your heart is true. Are you reading this? You’re a pal and a confidant. What’s the next line?

And if you threw a party. Nope. What? I’m sorry. Well, I’m not ashamed to say.

I hope it always will stay this way. My hat is off. Won’t you stand up and take a bow? And if you I’m doing the Golden Girls version. And if you threw a You’re doing the full song.

And if you threw a party and invited everyone you knew, you would see the biggest gift would be from me and the card attached would say, thank you for being a friend. Yeah. Well, this one If it’s a car you’d like, I’d surely buy you a Cadillac. Oh, this is the Andrew Gold version. I guess they sorry.

Because they did took me I didn’t I was like, I don’t remember this ashamed part. Yeah. That’s a thing. Oh, can this be our outgoing song? Is that copyrighted?

You have to rerecord it. I think we just did. Okeydokey. Oh, man. So you know what?

You know oh, by the way. John, by the way. Didn’t he write Stanley Livingston Seagull? What? Yeah.

I don’t know what you’re talking about. John, by the way, I’m pretty sure that’s a alter. I feel like this lately, I have these things tumble out of my brain. Memories Can you forget you’re fifteen years older than me and I don’t always know what you’re talking about? I forget I do forget that I’m 15 years old.

Yeah. I didn’t forget my age. I have memories that will just do you have this? This I told you hold on. I told you once that I thought my brain was dying, and when I have a strange memory randomly, it’s like a little cell that was holding it just died in it, and that’s it.

And I’ll never have that memory again. For example, I’d the other day, the memory, hadn’t thought of this for twenty, thirty, forty years. The memory of when I lived in Clovis, New Mexico, shout out to everyone in Clovis. Go wild cats. There was this stupid and when the winter, we would get snow there because we had high elevation.

But it didn’t matter. But in the winter, there was this weird Wonderland light park sort of thing, but it was so pitiful. If you saw it, it would be like the guy had a sleigh, like just a few items, but it was on this plot of land that was close to us, and it was like wide open land, and it was like there wasn’t a lot to see, but it was like a big deal there in Clovis, New Mexico. It was not like you’re, here locally, it would be Peacock Lane. But there was not a lot of lights, but I had this little blast of a memory of that.

I was like, I forgot about that as a kid. And how sad it seems thinking about it now, but at the time, you’re like, hey. This is actually, as a kid, you were even like, hey. This is okay. Is this the best we got?

A guy with, like, four strands of giant bulb lights, but that was it. But that memory kind of And this is a what? Like, what is this place? Clovis, New Mexico. It’s a place I lived.

No. But what is this place you’re describing? Because you’re just like, there was this field with four strings of lights that we would play at. It’s New Mexico. There’s a lot of just open lots.

There was like a big, a corrugate, one of those corrugated, like, shop barns. You know, corrugated metal with the sides and the top. There was that there. Okay. But what was the point for kids?

We’d go down this well, there was a road. You could drive your parents would drive you in a car, I think, at night, and you’d was no. It wasn’t really it was a driveway with a turnaround maybe. It’s pretty sad. Okay.

I hope my question was answered. What was it? It was on the other side of No. Here’s what I’m getting. It was South Of Yano Escoffier.

Place where your parents would drive you, and there were some lights, and it was just an open field, and then you would turn around and go back home. Well, feel I had like a gravel road, but, yeah, it was open space. I can see it. It was on the South Side Of Llano Estacado, which is a road in Clovis, New Mexico. Okay.

Fine. Wow. I’m saying I wonder what’s there now. I we could Google map it at some point, but I don’t have to do that now. But I’m saying, like, do you ever have random memories?

I feel like I get them more frequently. I did have a random memory last night. Okay. Was this your Which Okay. What?

I’m just doing a pre sigh. Okay. Why? Because I have a feeling I know what it is, but go ahead. Oh, my grandpa?

Yeah. Okay. Is that what it is? Well, here’s what let’s well, here’s what led to that. That’s why I preached that.

I was thinking about I, you know, I was meditating and I was thinking how much I used to love to play outside this old farmhouse that they used to live in. And when I was little, I thought they like owned this whole property. And little did I know that they were renting it this whole time. That’s how little you know as a kid, and then they’re and then they had to move out because the person was like, we’re gonna sell a property. You gotta move.

And I’m like, wait, what? Like, if you’re a kid, they’re like, oh, the landlord, and you’re like, I I thought they owned this. Yeah. I I thought it was ours forever. I was gonna build my own house.

It was huge. It’s just like property, two rolling hills, these big oak trees, and I would pick the locust shells off the oak trees when they were, like, shed their shells in the summer. Cicada. Mhmm. I’m sorry.

And then there were morning glories over by the cornfield that I would go look at in the morning because I wanted to see them open because I was always and then I was like, why am I thinking of this place? And that’s when I had the memory of, like, my grandpa, which led me to what I was gonna talk about is, like, my grandpa died when he was 68, which is not that old. And he died of some, I’ll just say some poor life choices of his, not substance abuse necessarily, but Okay. Some medication abuse. Okay.

Okay. So and then I thought, wow, when I was over there playing, you know, it was probably Max’s age, and I’m like, he was probably the age my dad is now. Right. Which is so weird to think about. Because I feel like when you’re a kid and you’re growing up, you just always imagine your grandparents in their 70s.

You just kind of always assume that they’re about 70. Pete Right. They just have. Pete You never think like, oh, my God, he’s probably the age that my dad is now. And my dad is like a healthy thriving carpentry outside doing, you know, a laborer.

Right? And it’s just weird. I don’t know. It’s just weird to think about it’s weird to think, like, your grandma Jean. Right.

It’s probably was probably, like, your mom’s age like, what your mom’s age is now when you were 20 or 25. Right. I don’t know. Yeah. I guess, why do I like, why do I am I the only one who always thinks about my grandparents, but they’re always, like, kind of in their seventies, and I don’t see them any younger.

Like, my meemaw to me has always looked the same. I feel like here’s what I think. But no, I where I by the time I was, like, old enough, whatever that age is, to actually start to understand maybe conceptually, I don’t know that. Like, oh, this is my grand it’s my mother’s mother, as opposed to just this person called grandma or grandma Jean, right? By the time, they were probably sixties, seventies, and so they just become slotted.

Even when my grandma, she passed away at what, 98? 98. Yeah. Right? But in my head, I was like, yeah, she doesn’t seem 98.

She’s probably, you know, in her seventies. Like, you know, like Yeah. But, like, there’s that kinda locked forever in your mind. It’s kind of an age for them. Even though when I first probably saw her as a young kid, because we didn’t live close by, she was probably like 50.

But I wouldn’t have recognized her as being younger, if that makes sense, because I just knew she was older than my mom, like, you know, just like your parents. I forget that my mom was, you know, 20, 30, like, you know, young. Young. Your your grandparents are, like, the same age as Mima, as my grandma. She’s, like, in that age, 80 to 85.

I don’t remember which, but she’s in that range. Right. Your parents. And that’s just so it’s just weird to think about. I don’t know.

So because of our ages or just, like, how you think of because Meemaw has held a place in your mind because you grew up with her as opposed to meeting my parents at whatever age. If anything, she looks even younger today because when I was growing up, she had that classic old lady hairdo, the the frilly old lady fro. What is up with that? Like, she had it for decades. Yeah.

I swear. I think she got that perm when she was, like, 45, and she just went with it for, like, until my papa died. Because he was kind of a control freak, and he wouldn’t let her wear pants, and he Woah. Did she wear I guess that was the hairstyle he liked. So should I clarify?

Back it up. Could she wear something on her downstairs? He could only he would only let her wear dresses. Okay. Or skirts.

He was not a bad man. They were just very, you know, yeah, traditional, I suppose. I think We’re Speaking of memories, I wanted to apologize about last episode because you said a swear word, and that’s also I think you said h e double hockey stinks. Oh my gosh. Well, I was just trying to keep it that was one of the notes I had.

Sorry. I just came here. On my behalf? Well, because it’s we’re keeping it explicit and clean even though we talked about teen Freddy Ruggarsay. I don’t wanna say it.

I do not know. Which is interesting because my dental hygienist today, her boyfriend had a child when he was 17. I didn’t really get a chance to talk to her, but she was like now the child is older and grows up and lived in Los Angeles. But I was like, oh, I was like, I can’t do that. We’ll just dive into that.

Yeah. Have I got an episode for you? I’d like to hear more how he handled that. Anyways, so the the parents being or grandparents being locked in at this kinda age or mentally, that’s how you see them or think of them. Right?

Like, you know, me mom was just always grandma age. I’ll just say grandma age. But the oh, the hair did She just looks like a grandma. My, grandma mill iron, Nora, she always had that. Yeah.

It was if when I saw her, she either had two things going on with her hair. One, it was wrapped in a bonnet thing, which probably was Curlers. Right? Curlers. Yeah.

The fro. And then she dyed it forever. She dyed it, you know, that unnatural grandma brownish, like, for her, till she finally went because I think her hair I don’t know what her I actually don’t know what her hair color was. Her natural well, I didn’t know when she was young, I mean. Was she a redhead?

It was darker, I think. Anyways, she always had that. Right? Whereas my grandma, Jean, we my sister and I thought she was, like, she had made a album, a a record album when we were kids. And there’s just a very famous Dolly Parton album I can’t think of, where Dolly Parton has that big giant hair.

Right? Uh-huh. Yeah. And my grandma Jean always had the we call it the q tip or the cotton candy. It’s a fro, but hers is like this it’s got a good swirl.

It had a lot of loft in it, you know? Like Yeah. And it was white. It’s what Donald Trump aspires to Yeah. If but can’t achieve.

So he had cotton candy, Q tip hair forever. And then sometimes you’d see it flat and you’d almost be like, oh, man. Like Bad hair day. Yeah. What’s going on, girl?

I don’t know what it took to get it up like that. It was like A lot of work done. A lot of aqua net? Imagine putting that much effort there’s a cat in here. I know.

Into yeah. Putting that much effort into my hair every day. Yeah. Well, I don’t know. I feel like it self does it because they have the curlers.

Right? You’ve gotta put the curlers in. That’s a lot of work. Is that why they put the bottom in them? I think they would sleep in them.

If you’re an old person or someone who does this, I’d love to know the actual technique because maybe it is. Curl because they have, like, like, curlers so you don’t have to be hot. They’re not hot. Then they have the other, like, the Ferris growing ones and whatever. And then you play with them as a kid.

Yeah. There’d be a whole bunch of those. My mother always had the little curler, like, the actual technology ones, the heater ones. The technology. You know, with the plastic thing, those were like, curlers were as a kid, I’ll think of this stuff in your parents’ bathroom that you found or saw or, I don’t know, that you played with.

See, Max is building these memories even even now. So I’m trying to True. True. Where because I got my little microneedling thing and he’s always like, oh, what’s and I’m like, don’t touch that. Yeah.

He’s so like And he’s probably gonna be like, what is that weird porcupine thing you used to have in your drawer? Right. No. It’s funny, like, what they’re gonna he’s gonna build his memory. So, like, yeah.

My mother always had, like, that, probably Clairol. Is that a brand? No. Clairol. Is that a brand of electron of bath electronics?

Revlon? Not Revlon. Clairol? I think it’s Clairol. Okay.

I don’t remember them making electronics. Well, I think it’s electronics. Well, I mean, like, you know what I’m talking about? That curler thing? Yeah.

And it has, like And they’re hot. Clear lid on it that you take off. Yeah. Like, it heats up. It’s almost like something you would take to a potluck.

Yeah. And everyone would do With hot dogs. Oh, hot dog buns. I got an idea for you, Jim. Oh.

Jim Rogue. You could you’re saying a buns and dogs in it. Bathroom. That would be awesome to wake up. I’m a hot dog.

Oh, man. We gotta go to Goodwill. Mind what I need to say. Can you do it? Oh, man.

Why is your dad always smell like processed meat when he comes to work? Oh, it’s my mom. Oh, wow. I mean Wow. Okay.

This gives home electronics a new, bath electronics. I don’t even know. Oh, man. Am I gonna look back in twenty years and be like, oh, you remember that flat iron you had that also you know, like, I think things have gotten more advanced. We’ve gotten more streamlined here.

Well, we figured out what we really need. Like, they’re like, you can do more with less, but, like, yeah, she had that. And I think she had more than one in my lifetime with the curler thing, the whatever you call it. Still has mine. Hot curler.

Yeah. I bet she still has one. I gotta pee we gotta ask her, but okay. So Oh. Oh, no.

The memories. And I hadn’t thought about my mom’s curling thing until you just now mentioned that. There goes another brain cell. Yeah. No.

Well, I feel like I don’t know. That one I dug up, but the the memories, the little memory, things that pop. So, I mean, okay. So this is I don’t know. Do you got do you got what else can I say here?

Other than this, our little dealio, like, on you go to podcast, Apple podcast or Spotify, you can go to find, Doing the Most with Scarlet Mitchell. Our little, like, you know oh, shoot. I can’t now I can’t even find it. Man, there’s a transcript on here. I am sorry.

If you go to one of the episodes, it says why am I struggling over here? Go to show. Okay. It says okay. This is a bar where I need you to say something.

Just fill in while I’m struggling with the stupid iPad over here. No. I was just thinking about Is this really something you’re thinking about or something you’re just saying? Oh, yeah. I got it.

Oh, this is not work. You’re just gonna edit this out. I can’t I don’t have to. You know how it says one man, two wives or whatever it says? Two Yikes.

Why is this goodest doing? It doesn’t matter. Our little thing talks oh, here we go. About, well, it says one toddler, two nurses, three couches, four coffee makers, five cats, and seven vacuums. And I was always like, oh, six.

What can I do for six? And I we had, like, too many TVs or not enough? Not enough. Not enough TVs for a six. Right?

All this right. And I don’t need to change this. Right? But guess what? Guess what?

We have six. Yeah. Of something else. Computers. No.

I don’t. But guess what? I’ll just tell you. I’ll see how long before you guess. Let’s see.

Let’s see. There’s a portable one. Danger has one. Air conditioner. Max has one.

Fan. Fan. Fan for 400. Danger has a oh, Zumbo, a Weebo, a WeMo? What is it called?

Yeah. I don’t know the Costco special. A Zumbob. Yeah. He’s got one.

We had two of those. Yeah. Max has your old one because you just got a new Lavois. Lavois. Now we’re up to three.

So danger Max, Carla. And then there is the port The black one that was in Max’s room. Which is the Vornex, Vortex. Vornado. Vornado.

That’s four. There’s a portable one with batteries. Mhmm. Five. Yeah.

And then we just we have the giant one that your brother got for inflating hot air balloons or drying out football fields. Extra. But six, six fans. Did you say drying off? Yeah.

Well, it’s so it’s like you’re the lowest setting, it sounds like, a squadron of b 50 twos are flying over. Yeah. And we’re like, oh my goodness. This fan. Like Have you seen those big ones that, like, they use at construction sites that you gotta, like, pull it over.

Yeah. Yeah. My dad used to have that. It’s shorter. It’s just one level shorter than that.

You’re just blowing hot air all over you, so have fun with that. So we got six fans now. And there I feel like there might be another hidden fan somewhere. I love a fan. I yeah.

Because, like yeah. No. I think I’d say because we’ve gotten rid of fans, but I you with this new Lavoie, which is over on your site, which you’re so excited about. That’s the best. Well, I mean, the brand’s not bad, but I’ve struggled with the the older Lavoie air filters are frustrating to me because the one that lost anyway, it doesn’t matter.

We have two air filters. Three are air filters. Anyways, because we like to do the most. I was gonna say, so we got six fans, everybody. That’s exciting.

Yeah. We’re feeling it full of Stuff. Stuff. Stuff. Stuff.

What was that? Oh, like Gavin Newsom. What is that? The word he said fat or something the other day instead of anyways, because we’re build we’re building here, people. We are doing the most I know in past episodes, we talked about how can we get rid of more stuff and get rid of items, but we’re I got a fan.

We’re full one eighty here. But I We are what I’m saying is we are just running like, it’s a slippery slope. We have literally got a sled and we’re riding down this one going whee. Hey. We still don’t have Amazon Prime.

Okay? We found other ways to fulfill this terrible habit. I mean, it’s we’re not getting more, but, like, I was like, we have two tea kettles. Okay? Like, is one not enough?

But you gotta suck up. Has the mine has the empty I know. I’m just I’m just like, bird feeders, folks. You just, like, we’re like, woo. We got more plants, and now we got Yeah.

That other bird feeder came from your dad. A squirrel proof bird feeder, which is really just a squirrel puzzle feeder. Like, it still feeds them. I know. I’m not mad.

I’m just, like, realizing maybe the problem is I’m trying to think The bird feeder is, like, the equivalent of the thing you get for dogs so they eat slower. That’s, like, essentially what that bird feeder is. It just slows them down. Slows the squirrels down. Yeah.

It doesn’t stop them. Yeah. Yeah. It is the it’s the squirrel. And so it keeps them from having their tummy turning.

There’s little squirrels. And which we did so we just did the most where you’re and we got a porch porch swing. Hey. That porch swing has got some miles under his belt. Three couches.

There’s I mean, I’m sorry. I’m not mad. But I was the other day, I look at the garage, like, it’s just filling up. Like, I don’t know what is going on. I feel like you’re blaming me and it’s just all me.

No. No. No. Well, you get stuff and then it goes in there and then but I haven’t cleared out space in my garbage. I don’t know.

And board games. See, I’m adding. Like, I’ve Yeah. We there’s board games I have not even played, but you’re like, let’s get some more. And I get that because that’s, like, me with books.

Well, you haven’t even read that book. But you know what? I think I’ll buy three more. Yeah. I like a good you know what I like a good about this new board game I got, it’s fun.

We should play it when when we don’t have time, when we’re making friends with new people. The Sky Team? Yeah. It is it’s so anyways, I if you’re into board games, folks, sorry. If you’re not, whatever.

Here’s what I like about board games in general. I find that board games, it’s a fun yeah. It’s a fun, activity. Multiple people can play. It brings the family together.

That’s why board game night. It’s just a fun Family home evening. Right. Okay. Right?

It’s fun. It’s just it’s just a different activity that doesn’t involve that can be funny, serious, competitive. I like that. Did you hear that? No.

Oh. Sorry. I was reading this piece of paper over here and I got confused. Because I had like But I did hear that Weird. It was a weird belch.

I’m sorry. It was a kind that was like, not the burpee one, but like that. It’s like a lot of anyway The human body is so weird. This one, SkyTeam, it’s a two player only game. And you play pilot and co pilot and you’re trying to land a plane.

Oh. It’s fun. It’s cooperative but you but, yeah, like it’s anyway. But it’s fun. I like it because it has, like, lots of pieces and little things that and they’ll switch it.

And this is what the kids hate about me, except for Olivia, respects this, is I after every game, I have to count every card, every coin, every token, everything to make sure they’re all there and they’re not lost. Olivia already knows the count. She starts counting. And this has lots of little pieces. Because she’s that same person.

Yeah. And that’s fine. That likes the board’s still person and Right. The group who’s gonna So Max’s closet is filled with lots of board games. All of them have all of the pieces.

I’m just being very clear there because I maintain them now. Okay. I agree. That and nobody plays them. But and then I got Max his little game here.

Yeah. Hedgehog Habberdash. Yeah. And then I did order another board game too. Well, I was feeling down yesterday.

Is doing the most people, so I was feeling down and I didn’t know what to do and I was like, the best thing to do is not drink, but it’s to buy stuff, consume. Yeah. And I had to buy an irregular site in it. Like, it’s gonna take two months to get here, but I’m like, that’s okay. What’s a regular site?

I don’t not Amazon. Okay. You know, like a board game company out of Illinois, you know, where I get this is gonna be a while. I’ll probably forget. It’ll be a pleasant surprise where you’re like, oh my goodness.

I forgot I ordered this. This, you know, 2024 special edition game oh, yeah. Anyway, so board games. Alright. You have we can start wrapping the show.

We got stuff going on tonight, folks. Not that you care, because by the time you hear this, we’re in a new every Monday release. It’s a vibe to every other Monday. And remember, it’s a fortnightly podcast. So it’s not about fortnight.

It comes out fortnightly. Okay? You’re blowing off some gas over there, off your mouth. Yeah. I’m a little belchy.

Don’t you just sit back all you want from the microphone. Nobody needs to hear you. Good. Okay. Didn’t wanna do it in the microphone.

I got nothing. Well, I mean, there’s plenty, but we need to move along. Because so when I’m here on my final note is this, is this. I for my is that we’re not we’re just progressing, marching forward, full steam ahead just with new ways of getting more stuff. Not really.

I just do you feel the weight sometimes in the garage or anywhere? Yeah. That’s why I have a big old box to go to Goodwill. I know. And I didn’t take it to shut up.

I saw it in the car. I was like, what? Listen. I ran out of steam. Traffic was there was a lot of people.

I’m gonna run out of gas in that other car too, by the way. I am because I’m the one taking it to work on Sunday. No. No. It was just people were just out today, and I was just like, I’m not I don’t wanna drive all the way down eighty second and, like, fight that traffic on the way there and fight it on the way back and Oh, okay.

Yeah. So we’re gonna drop it off in Lake Oswego on the way to the restaurant. Okay. Next up, your segment. Tell us more.

I didn’t realize the time right now. I’m so tired. I’m so tired of being at the age where you have to stretch now. Yeah. Like When you get to my age, you can’t stretch.

Okay. You wake up from sleeping and you’re sore and you did nothing the day before. You you can’t say like, oh, I did yoga, so like my legs are really sore, or I did, you know, a hike or something. You just wake up and you’re like, oh, man. My my legs just feel kinda achy and my hips are tight, and I just need to, like, you know, do some hip openers and Yeah.

Yeah. How hard. Well, that’s you have to. When you get to my age, you just, you should, but you can’t or you won’t. And then when you get to your dad’s age, you just can’t Yeah.

Because you haven’t in seventy five years. Okay. True. Okay. This is However, with this age, I will say that I am grateful for being at the age of bird watching.

Ah, which my father also is of age. I really feel like just in the last twelve months, something has shifted in me where it’s just like, I just love watching them. I love I love watching the eagles. I love watching the little birds come to our bird feeder. In fact, I wanted to entice them more with a bird bath and another bird feeder.

Like, I just really enjoy watching them. I like watching the hawks play over. Like, the hawk flying over yesterday with the two crows were, like, tormenting it. Yeah. Because now I’m I I will drive down the road and just, like, look for birds of prey and try to see if I can, like, name that bird.

And do you not notice that you see them more now that you’re look like, you’re, like, team All the time. I’m like, man, they are everywhere. Yeah. We are probably under attack. That’s how many I see now that because I’m up and looking up in the sky.

Yeah. So And you notice all the osprey nests on the Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well, and it’s, which is funny because you say, like, like, when you were younger, you’re like, oh my goodness, bird watching.

Please, people. Like, you’re like, I would never get to be that person. Welcome. Welcome here. I’m actually I’m happy to be here.

You’re that person. Yeah. It’s kind of something about it. It’s a strange, like, suburban nature thing. Yeah.

So I wonder what it’s like not in the suburbs or if it’s any better. Out in the real woods? Yeah. The real The rural areas. I don’t know.

So well, there’s any more tiredness? I’m just doing one little bit. Oh, okay. But I’m glad you had nothing to add to that. Well, did you want me to add nothing Or just listen to you?

I do listen. I love you. You’re so wonderful. Oh my gosh. Does this mean we’re getting to that point in the show?

Where we have to end? Well oh, that music that music queues us up, which I think I said last time. I’ll put the whole song after the episode, and I don’t think I did. So Okay. I’ll do that next time.

Well, until next time. Well, oh, yeah. Tune in for episode I was gonna bring up the whole panic attack thing, but we’ll see a little teaser there. Oh, okay. Any other health concerns to bring up for episode 11?

Not for me. Alright. Thanks for tuning in. Doing the most with Scarlet and Mitchell.